calm
I’m no longer afraid of what might happen. Of course, I may become afraid again after this feeling of calmness wears off.Three zones of comfort
Comfort, stretch, and stress.For methods of learning
Analytically, procedurally, relationally (or collaboratively), and innovatively. Adulthood focuses on the first two, childhood on the second two.Can You Become a Creature of New Habits? - New York Times →
She recommends practicing a Japanese technique called kaizen, which calls for tiny, continuous improvements.
“Whenever we initiate change, even a positive one, we activate fear in our emotional brain,” Ms. Ryan notes in her book. “If the fear is big enough, the fight-or-flight response will go off and we’ll run from what we’re trying to do. The small steps in kaizen don’t set off fight or flight, but rather keep us in the thinking brain, where we have access to our creativity and playfulness.”
Had a good quiet night at home. Salad, wine, finishing the question book, catching up on Gossip Girl, posting to tumblr from bed in the dark while Kellianne sleeps.
The epiphany of going towards uncomfortable emotion is continuing to make me think. Tried it for a while and the experience and duration of an emotion seems to be completely different when going towards it rather than going away from it. It has no positive or negative value when you face it. When avoiding an emotion, or wishing to change it, a negative and unpleasant value springs up and merges with the initial feeling, making it stronger and more powerful.
It’s a Buddhist principle at heart, the whole embracing and letting things pass philosophy. Feelings are meant to be fleeting, it’s only story and meaning that prolongue and twist their faces in exaggeration. A feeling that lasts is probably being fed by an artificial source.